Every year all over the world people use the first day of January as a n opportunity to make a fresh start… and every year a percentage of those people have given up on their “resolutions” by February.
Why? Because often people feel they should make certain changes in their lives. They feel they should lose weight, they should save more money, they should spend their time differently. These are often the people for whom resolutions simply do not work. An attempt may be made and does not last because they are not emotionally ready to do the work required of such change.
The truth is, resolutions are really only valuable for those who are emotionally motivated and really want to commit to making a change in their lives. These people are truly ready to commit to the deep work that is necessary because they are physically, intellectually and emotionally connected tothe commitment. They have genuine enthusiasm about doing the work. What emotionally motivates us is what energizes us, and it is what keeps us going two months in and longer.
We’re taught to do the things we need to do, which can bring a lot of guilt and shame that prevents change. If you want to be ready to make the change, if you want be be emotionally motivated and enthusiastic about it, get real with where you’re at emotionally.
When you try to force yourself to do something, it tends not to work or work as well as you might like. Acknowledge how you really feel about it, about your life, about yourself. If you find yourself stuck in a certain area, try to embrace, feel and understand the stuck-ness as a way of motivating a more natural change.
Whether or when you make a “resolution” or commitment to yourself is the same throughout the year, and while resolutions can be useful motivational tools, they generally only work when you are in the right place emotionally. So, take the time to connect to your own true feelings. Then, when you are truly ready, your “resolution” will stick because the motivation will be pure, rather than driven by guilt and shame.