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We hear in many ways the need to be positive and yet it seems to lack meaning and purpose when we repeat positive messages over and over again with no positive results. If being positive is so important why is it so difficult to to be positive and how do I create positive energy in my life.

When we live in negative energy, we do not matter and are taught to hide our true self. Our true self is always positive, loving and caring, yet why do we not connect with our selves this way? When we are taught to hide our feelings we are taught we do not matter and we learn to hide our true selves. In hiding our true selves, we focus on more negative energy as a way to cope in our environment. This negative energy keeps us stuck and trapped.

For many of us, attempting to focus on the positive is difficult because it is unfamiliar. It is also scary to do something that is emotionally unfamiliar. When we are able to face the fear of the unfamiliar and feel the natural positive energy that is within us, the negative energy starts to decrease and a natural power starts to well up within that helps us realize we do matter in ways we were unaware of.

Focusing on our emotional truth (true straight feelings) is the first step in connecting with our positive energy.

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I need a lot more rest than I used to. I’m not being lazy. I get physical fatigue as well as a “brain fatigue.” It is very difficult and tiring for my brain to think, process, and organize. Fatiguemakes it even harder to think.

My stamina fluctuates, even though I may look good or “all better” on the outside. Cognition is a fragile function for a brain injury survivor. Some days are better than others. Pushing too hard usually leads to setbacks, sometimes to illness.

Brain injury rehabilitation takes a very long time; it is usually measured in years. It continues long after formal rehabilitation has ended. Please resist expecting me to be who I was, even though I look better.

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Money is one of the biggest sources of marital discord—and it can be one of the toughest to resolve.

That’s because when couples argue about how to spend money, they’re not just debating the issue at hand, such as how much they can put on the credit card each month, or whether they can really afford that big vacation. They’re giving voice to subconscious anxieties that even they may not be aware of—and bumping up against the unarticulated fears of their partners.

Maybe it was a childhood of poverty—or just the constant fear of poverty—that leaves a spouse hating to spend money. Maybe a first spouse’s secret bank account now is causing distrust in a second marriage.

Even benign past experiences can lead to unintended consequences years later. Dave Jetson, founder of Jetson Counseling in Rapid City, S.D., says that his first memory of money is getting a quarter from a cousin at age four or five. His mother immediately took it away for safekeeping, he says. “Her heart and her intention were in the right place, but what that taught me was, the next time I get the money, I’m going to spend it, because I don’t want it taken away.”

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People express love in many different ways. The way my Mom was known to express her love was with her generosity and food. Different people have their different favorites that she would make. A friend of mine recalls her chocolate chip cookies as his favorite. I remember the Sunday chicken dinners and her graham cracker pie as two of my favorites.

People also recall how they always knew where they stood with her because she was not known to mince her words. She was known to be sharp, critical, harsh and even downright mean at times. Her anger flares were known by all.

As I have observed and come to better understand human behavior, I have come to appreciate that her anger was hiding deeper feelings of hurt, sadness, fear, guilt and shame. I have also come to realize that no one expresses any feelings greater than their history demands. The expression may be greater than the situation demands, but not greater than their history.

With that understanding, I can appreciate the depth of pain that my Mom was holding in. Since she did not have the tools or understanding on how to effectively work through and release those feelings, her logical way to create that release was to die, which she desired to do.

The pain that my Mom experienced with her unresolved feelings did not allow the pearl of great worth that God created in her to fully shine. I look forward to the day when I am able to see the full brilliance of her pearl when we connect again in heaven.